The power of Grief
You need to go see Colin Campbell's "Grief: A One Man ShitShow."
When you hear about the show, you'll probably resist going and that has to do with fear. Fear of solo shows and fear of loss.
Trust me you don't need to scared of this solo show, more on that in a second. A fear of losing those we love...yeah, that's the whole point of this show.
Colin Campbell gets right to it. Three years ago on June 12th, Colin was driving with his wife, Gail, and two teenage children, Ruby and Hart, when their car was t-boned by a drunk driver. Both children died.
That's where the show begins.
It's all too easy to imagine a solo show that's a painful mess beginning with that loss: painful not because of the subject matter but because of the indulgent execution.
That's not this show.
Yes, this show is painful but not because it's selfish or unconsidered but because we live in a culture absent of meaningful lamentation or an acceptance of grief.
That's the deep subject of "Grief: A One Man Shitshow" - how do we grieve and why are we so ill-equipped to deal with not only our own grief but the grief of those around us.
Colin understands how difficult a journey this will be for the audience. He takes care of us by naming that and through his skill as a theatre maker and his generosity as a human. He lets us know that some us might laugh as others cry and he's up front about the tragedy. As he says, "there's no third act reveal."
Instead, he questions: why theatre?
He draws inspiration from the Greeks, reminding us in a lovely quick, comic encapsulation just how much death surrounds the story of Oedipus. Basically everyone dies in horrid circumstances. The Greeks filled their plays with this grief seeing a whole day of tragedies before a quick palate cleanser Satyr play with huge comic phalluses (this isn't lost on Colin). They found value in that grief (and I guess those phalluses).
Colin is using theatre as a guide not for his soul but for ours. He is going to share with us the journey that he's been on the last three years, not to have us indulge in his pain but rather to share with us a journey we will all make. He's guiding us through the grief we've either already experienced or inevitably will.
Now, most of us will never go through the pain of losing all of our children in a car crash. We will all experience loss. It's through the specificity of Colin's journey that we will make sense of not only his grief but our own.
It's a difficult journey but it is never selfish and never exploitative. You will leave this show moved by Colin's generosity and love and devastated that two incredible children died too soon and too tragically.
You will be glad you went and as difficult is the journey is, you'll feel better and your soul a bit bigger for having experienced it.
"Grief: A One Man ShitShow" plays at Sacred Fools in Hollywood as part of the Hollywood Fringe tonight, June 23rd at 9:30 and Sunday June 25th at 11pm. This is Anthony Byrnes Opening the Curtain on LA Theatre for KCRW.
This is Anthony Byrnes Opening the Curtain on Los Angeles theater for KCRW.